If you want, each little decision and interaction with your kids is up for evaluation.
Did I say that right?
Did I help them work through that tantrum properly?
Am I supposed to use a different phrase when she won’t share?
If I buy them this toy will they grow up entitled and spoiled and resent me?
An Instagram influencer said kids are doomed unless you say {this} when they cry.
All well intended. All worth thinking about practicing to get better. But also sometimes exhausting.
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Instead, maybe a better thing to worry about is “what do they see us do over and over when we forget they’re watching?”
Whether good or bad, all that stuff they soak up from their parents every single day.
A healthy loving, marriage. Being present without a phone. Treating strangers with respect. Exploring interesting places. Saying please and thank you and sorry. Giving your best. Standing up for something.
Years and years of soaking this stuff up probably pays off.
Gratefully Dad 